This is a question I am asked often so today I decided to talk Self-love.
At 36, I can say I have found me and I know my worth, why, you may ask?
At the age of 30, I made a conscious decision that things need to change. I had to find me, love me, put myself first, and set boundaries. Most will say I’ve changed but I simply found me and know who I am. My journey has taught me that the relationship I have with myself sets the tone for every other relationship.
Owning my story and loving myself through my discovery process has been the best thing that I could’ve done. I am so proud of who I am, and not ashamed of how anyone else sees me. Be me… That is all I want to do, and I am doing it Unapologetically. Loving me made me realize that if I don’t take care of me how would I be able to really take care of anyone else because I can not pour from an empty cup.
When you practice self-love, you become more confident and accepting of yourself. When you achieve that feeling you are able to go into relationships with a strong sense of self. The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others, so approaching a relationship with a strong sense of self is the best way.
I strongly believe nothing is more important than a healthy sense of self-esteem and simply loving yourself.
By doing this my life is:
1. My life is more peaceful, Life becomes simpler and lighter. I don’t overthink things any more nor do I beat myself up over mistakes or temporary setbacks.
2. I have more inner stability and self-sabotage less. Way less. When your opinion of yourself goes up then you’ll stop trying to get so much validation and attention from other people. I’ve learned, I am validated. I am Enough! I’ve found myself to be less needy and find inner stability and strength even when my world seems uncertain at times. Increasing self-esteem and self-love also makes me feel more deserving of the good things that life has to offer.
3. I am just a happier being that is why I value myself and my self-esteem so much because It’s simply has made my own life so much happier and more fun. Be encouraged. Find you. It’s the best you can do for yourself and those around you. When you don’t know who you are, you don’t know what you need. If you don’t know how would you expect others to know?
My journey has allowed me to write my own quotes. I don’t COMPETE because I am COMPLETE! I am validated! You don’t need to COMPETE once you are complete. Find you. That is where your completion lies.
You won’t know the art of getting up if you don’t embrace failure…
Stay Inspired to Inspire!
By Simone Phillips
Affirm yourself. Remind yourself who you are, daily.
You are Worthy.
You are Enough.
You are Loved.
You are Validated.
Talk to yourself, it matters. You need to hear your own voice more than those of others.