Why I Self Love?

This is a question I am asked often so today I decided to talk Self-love.


At 36, I can say I have found me and I know my worth, why, you may ask?


At the age of 30, I made a conscious decision that things need to change. I had to find me, love me, put myself first, and set boundaries. Most will say I’ve changed but I simply found me and know who I am. My journey has taught me that the relationship I have with myself sets the tone for every other relationship.


Owning my story and loving myself through my discovery process has been the best thing that I could’ve done. I am so proud of who I am, and not ashamed of how anyone else sees me. Be me… That is all I want to do, and I am doing it Unapologetically. Loving me made me realize that if I don’t take care of me how would I be able to really take care of anyone else because I can not pour from an empty cup.

When you practice self-love, you become more confident and accepting of yourself. When you achieve that feeling you are able to go into relationships with a strong sense of self. The way you treat yourself sets the standards for others, so approaching a relationship with a strong sense of self is the best way.

I strongly believe nothing is more important than a healthy sense of self-esteem and simply loving yourself.

By doing this my life is:

1. My life is more peaceful, Life becomes simpler and lighter. I don’t overthink things any more nor do I beat myself up over mistakes or temporary setbacks.

2. I have more inner stability and self-sabotage less. Way less. When your opinion of yourself goes up then you’ll stop trying to get so much validation and attention from other people. I’ve learned, I am validated. I am Enough! I’ve found myself to be less needy and find inner stability and strength even when my world seems uncertain at times. Increasing self-esteem and self-love also makes me feel more deserving of the good things that life has to offer.

3. I am just a happier being that is why I value myself and my self-esteem so much because It’s simply has made my own life so much happier and more fun. Be encouraged. Find you. It’s the best you can do for yourself and those around you. When you don’t know who you are, you don’t know what you need. If you don’t know how would you expect others to know?


My journey has allowed me to write my own quotes. I don’t COMPETE because I am COMPLETE! I am validated! You don’t need to COMPETE once you are complete. Find you. That is where your completion lies.

You won’t know the art of getting up if you don’t embrace failure…

Stay Inspired to Inspire!

By Simone Phillips

Affirm yourself. Remind yourself who you are, daily.

You are Worthy.

You are Enough.

You are Loved.

You are Validated.

Talk to yourself, it matters. You need to hear your own voice more than those of others.


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About myself: I am Simone Phillips, a blogger (www.11yearsofnappies.blog), content creator, brand ambassador and Influencer (@momwithtatts), this after having been a corporate mom for 15 years within the Financial Services space. I am a mama bear to 4 amazing beings, Ethan, Micaiah, Zoe and Eden and a wife of 15 years to an incredible man, Robert Phillips. Not only that, but I am a Gangster rapping, R&B lover, ink-lover, Jesus'' girl, crazy dancing, and tea lover Kinda mom. Summary: My book is my journey, my story about being a woman, a wife and mom. This is my truth straight from my heart strings as raw and as authentic as can be, this has made me who I am today. A story about a girl who was lost, overwhelmed and who had no sense of being. She had to make a conscious decision to stop existing and start living. She had to become intentional about her life. My hope is that my story will inspire, impact and give hope to a woman, a mom, a wife, or someone who does not know who she is, who is lost and overwhelmed with all the different roles she has to play and the hats she is required to wear daily. I need for HER to know, she can change things, and she can press the reset button on her life irrespective of her age. That it is ok to let go of her past pains, triggers and batons that may have been handed over to her. She is enough. She is worthy. Proud to be a Top 50 Blogger voted for by Get Blogged.

One thought on “Why I Self Love?

  1. This is such an empowering read Simone. You’ve highlighted lots of things for me to go away and reflect on. I especially like your point about when you feel you’re enough you’re no longer acting to secure validation – I think this ultimately leads to better decision making too! Thank you for sharing & inspiring xxx


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