Today we have an Amazing, beautiful and strong mama on the blog.
She is testament that we can get through our toughest battles.
I am Shontel Kelly aka Shoni, 46yrs old, Born in Kimberley, South Africa. I have two boys aged 23 and 25yrs, Widowed, my husband passed away on 25th April 2017, we were married for 12 years.
If I had to describe myself in 3 words, I would say,
Motherhood has taught me that, A mothers job is never done, even though you have adult children it doesn’t stop there.
It taught me to love unconditionally, to cry behind closed doors and to support my kids no matter what happens. The hardest thing to do is when you give tough love to your kids, they just don’t know how it hurts, but at the end of the day they need to spread their wings and learn to fly.
Marriage has taught me alot. I was married twice, my firdt marriage was onr of the toughest but it taught me to be strong, that no matter what life gives you, get up dust yourself off and lift your head high, it can happen to anyone, but I didn’t have to live in an abusive marriage.
It taught me that I have a choice in life, I always thought what are people going to say, but at the end of the day people didn’t matter, my life mattered and I chose freedom.
My second marriage was the total opposite. A man that wanted to love me but I always had my guard on, and his words were “why should I suffer because of another man’s afflictions”. It taught me to let go and let God. I started trusting again, loving again, living again.
Some life lessons I have learned on my journey is that in life you are the most important person. You need to take care of you first and then you’ll be able to take care of your family, it’s like being selfish in an unselfish way. Do not allow any negative energy to take control of your life. When you hit rock bottom its the best place to start over again, but just don’t give up.
Most importantly I’ve learnt that a God wise enough to create me & the world I live in is wise enough to watch out for me Jeremiah 29:11
On my life journey I had to deal with alot and overvome even more.
Wow, okay where do I start, I have overcome so many challenges in my life. My younger son was on drugs, literally a few months after my husband passed away was the most painful and toughest process. It broke me to see how he was deteriorating. He stole over R20 000.00 worth of my catering equipment. I put him out but I kept giving him another chance until one day I said no more enough is enough and said this time I don’t care what happens to you get out of my life, I called the cops for my son. Tough love again, it hurts like hell, because to put your son out like a dog is heart-breaking, you keep thinking is he okay did I make the right decision. I prayed for him 24/7. One day he made a choice to go to rehab and I supported him in everything, he chose to get his life in order. A mother’s love is unconditional, I never stopped praying for him I never stopped loving him. I continue to show him love and support irrespective the circumstance.
My biggest achievement as a woman would be, well it’s definitely not silver or gold LOL, on a serious note, my biggest achievement is that I’m still standing but by the Grace of God.
I am an independent woman, successful in my career and still aiming for higher, I came out stronger in every challenge.
My Advice to other moms, wives anx women is to be selfish in an unselfish way and take care of you, it gives you more insight of where you are in life, and you have the strength to.handle the situation you are facing.
If, it is out of your hands let it be. Take risks. Live, Love and Laugh more often.
If I could be any animal, I would definitely love to be an Eagle.
They are beautiful, strong and fight their battles in the air, They have stamina and resilience.
2 things in 2019 that I am looking forward to is, My passion is to be a motivational speaker and I would love to pursue this before the end of 2019 and to meet a soul mate.
I’ve asked someone to describe me in 3 words and this is the
Wow. What a beautiful mom, strength and perseverance is something we can all learn from her.
Thank you Shontell.